A different approach to the crisis
As Coronavirus (COVID-19) works its way in every aspect of our lives and businesses, we are being inundated daily with ads for checklists, productivity tools and software, but what if there is something we're STILL missing?
In the final panel of the Elevate Series, I jumped on a Facebook Live with Nadia Munla (NM) and Bria Anderson (BA) who are both embodiment coaches to find out how we could be using our bodies to help us navigate the Coronavirus pandemic.
Diane (DM): Hey everyone, welcome to the final panel of my part of the series, and I have something hopefully really different to round out all the tactics, blueprints, thought processes, rituals we've been talking about over the last couple of days. I'm joined by Nadia Munla and Bria Anderson, both of whom are embodiment coaches.
And I'm going to let them explain what that means so that I do not make a terrible job of it. But these ladies will be, I think a breath of fresh air after all the like hardcore business talk of the last few days and really give you some different options on coping in this time. So Nadia, do you want to kick it off with what an embodiment coach is?
WHAT IS AN EMBODIMENT COACH?
NM: Sure. I mean, ultimately we're here to help get you out of your head and into your body, which of course is a little bit of a strange phrase considering your head is part of your body. I always have some mentioned that, but I think we all understand what that means, right? It's moving out of this sort of go, go, go strategizing, like conceptualizing, you know, sort of that gear shift into a gear shift of being, of receiving of feeling, of sensing in our bodies. So that's ultimately what we do.
DM: And so what have you been seeing in like the last couple of weeks as the crisis is kind of ramped up for yourselves? What are you feeling? What are you seeing with clients? What are you seeing in the community at large?
WHAT ARE YOU EXPERIENCING IN THE CRISIS?
BA: In speaking about embodiment, I'd say one of the things that I'm seeing significantly, I live in San Diego as my home base. I'm a nomad, and I'm currently at my parents' home on the East Coast and across the board, I'd say in various communities, I'm seeing a lot of disembodied, panic and fear and, sort of chaos swirling.
And simultaneously, I'm noticing in those communities, that there's a seeking and a craving for stability and some knowing and some like grounding amidst it all. So there's this, I would say, a beautiful oscillation between people that are sort of like swirling in the unknowns of it all.
And then also like, wait a minute, they're asking some new questions like. What can I maybe look at differently or what, what can maybe help me see this differently or experience this differently? So I'd say that's one of the general themes that I'm seeing.
DM: Nadia, are you seeing something similar.
NM: Yes, I mean, I'm sort of looking at it through a lens of, our nervous system, right. And our trauma responses. And there is a man by the name of Gabor Mate, if you don't know him, you should. He's amazing. And he talks a lot about addiction and trauma, and one thing that, that he shared in his work is this idea of, you know, trauma really occurs when we have a moment where we feel the present is unsafe.
“When the present is unsafe, the automatic survival response is to eject out of the present. “
And when the present is unsafe, of course, the automatic survival response, what we're going to do is to eject out of the present. And so we can do that in a few different ways. and we eject out of the present in our bodies, right? Cause we want to bring this back to embodiment. And so what happens is people will eject and I like to think of this like spatially and visually, right? Either far into the future. So we start to worry about what's going to happen in the future. We are seeing, you know, all the fear of uncertainty. All the fear of the financial piece of things is really big for pretty much most people. We start to also, obsess about the past so we can eject into the past and start to go, I should have done it differently.
I should've gotten more toilet paper. I should have done what I, you know, I should have taken it more seriously early on, masks, gloves, all the things. And then the other way that we move out of the present, is we eject out of our, our body, our embodied experience. So we can still be in the, in the moment, so to speak, in that we're not thinking about the future or the past, but what's happening is we are now ejecting into our external environment.
And so, you know, everyone who's cleaning their pantries and organizing stuff or suddenly are like, Oh my God, I have to do 1,000,001 things. Right. It's a way to feel that's an illusion of control because we aren't able to just sit quietly with the discomfort of the uncertainty and that we actually don't know, what's going to happen, where this is going to go.
No one knows what's going to happen. It's literally impossible. And to me, this global crisis right now is simply magnifying and putting a spotlight on the exact same patterns that we all have on a day to day basis, but in a much milder way. And so even though it's awful circumstances, it's a tragedy, of course, we're doing everything we can to make sure this doesn't get worse. You know, how can we actually use this as an opportunity to really understand, Oh, okay. Whatever's coming up for you is the same stuff that comes up for you on a day to day basis. And perhaps now would be the time to actually sit with it and be with it and understand, you know, what needs to move around it, but what I'm noticing again is that people eject into the future of the past or are doing things like household projects.
Again, there's nothing wrong with a household project if it's coming from a very healthy, regulated place, but if you're doing it because you're like, I don't know what else to do, different story.
DM: As the person with the 85 point to-do list…. To be fair, I haven't really been making sure that I'm hyper-productive at all times, but that is my happy go-to. That's my way to just gain control of whatever's around me, like what needs doing and let me do all of it.
Do you also see that this is when people start to numb as well, like with drugs, alcohol, food, whatever their comforter of choice is, that they're also ejecting out of the present and just numbing the experience?
NM: Totally. Yeah.
BA: I think that with food, emotional eating, drugs, alcohol, as Nadia was saying, the things that many were already either a habit or behavior or belief they were already identifying in prior to this. Maybe that was a bit muted. because of the distractions around us. And now so many of us are, are sitting in our homes not leaving, choosing to not leave, some required to not leave.
We don't have the opportunity for a lot of those, external environmental distractions. So I think it is like turning the volume dial-up. And I also am noticing, I feel like, in my opinion, that some of that numbing is coming from obsessing over media. As well. It's just pouring into everyone's homes and it's like a never-ending dose of like a sort of trance-like numbing state that is filling the airwaves as it were.
HOW ARE YOU PROTECTING YOUR MINDSET?
DM: And how do you protect yourself from like that media and that news thing? The reason I ask this question is, that we did a mindset panel, like a general managing mindset panel a couple of days ago. And it was interesting to me that both of the people on that call who are very positive people in my life limit their exposure very much to the news.
Like they're kind of at a summary level of like, Hey, I know what's going on in the world, but I do not need to refresh BBC or CNN multiple times a day. Do you do that as well as a kind of filter for yourselves?
NM: Okay, I'll hop in here. Yeah, I'm not, I'm very much limiting, what information comes at me and honestly, the way that people are feeling the need to offer that information to me from a place of love is nearly enough of my newsfeed.
You know, just, the calls from the family and the, whoever, you know what I mean? I'm like, okay, I'm getting my stats and my lectures from there, and that's more than enough. So I've personally been super, super limiting. I check a couple of things but it's not on Facebook or it's not social media. That's for sure.
And I think, I'll just add to that there is, again, it's an illusion of control. There's a very fine line between educating yourself. Again, from a regulated place, everything we're doing, it doesn't matter what it is, whether you're learning about the stats, whether you're eating or watching Netflix, you can do all of the above.
It's the same activities, right? That can be done by one person, from a healthy, regulated place. You can watch TV and it's just like, of course, you're at home, you're gonna watch some television. Or it can come from a place of ejecting out of the present moment, out of your body, out of whatever sensations are coming up that feel uncomfortable.
That's really ultimately it. I'm curious with what Bria has got to say about this too.
BA: Yeah. I also limit any of the time that I spend engaging in that. Interestingly, I'm staying with my parents currently, as I'm in town and they're choosing to have the media and the news running at all times in the background. And some of my students, we have been talking about this, like they're in different living environments in the interim. So how do you protect oneself when choices are being made around you that maybe wouldn't be your preferred choice?
And I found myself initially getting really triggered and really like pissed off and kind of getting sucked into it. And I'm like, Hmm. Interesting. Okay. And then even being snippy with my parents at times when they would want to express their opinions on what they were taking in. So I chose to kind of, to come back into my embody practices, come back into my embodiment.
Take more micro-breaks and step outside. I feel super blessed that I'm pretty much in the middle of the forest right now. Step outside, feel the sun, listen to the birds, feel the rain when it was raining the other day, and then I'm able to come back in those moments when the news is blaring in the background and actually practice this.
At lunch today. I kindly asked my mom like, Hey, mom, do you mind if you would switch the channel for like the next 30 minutes or so? and maybe you want to come over and chat with me while I'm eating lunch. so we can have some time together. And then I noticed that I have a bit more room when I take those micro-breaks.
A bit more room for compassion around their experience because I think that's a very important thing right now. Being embodied in our own individual experiences and, and aiming for compassion for others in theirs that no one's experiences better or worse or more, right or more wrong. Certainly, we can have our, our positions around leadership and their decisions, et cetera.
And we're all in the humanness of all of this. And some more embodied and some are disembodied and trying to figure it out each step of the way. So that's the way that I've been approaching the media process.
WHY DOES THIS FEEL LIKE GRIEF?
DM: To me, as I'm interacting with people, people are almost at different stages of some kind of grief process, like that kind of denial.
I know I was saying today, for me, lifestyle-wise, I'm almost, I'm not in denial. I'm not kind of like, Oh, poor me with my life, but Ooh, I'm kind of irritated that this virus has made me do the one thing that I don't want to do, which is have to be in one place. And I know you're both travelers as well, but that for me, I'm like having this irrational anger at a virus, which then turned into immediate guilt of like, Oh, but people are so much worse off than me.
Like nothing has really changed for me. Whereas I'm seeing other people who are, you know, almost on the depressed and as they're trying to cope with the life that they had that has been removed. Does that make sense? That we would be in some kind of grief cycle?
NM: Well, I feel like also it comes to the piece that Bria mentioned about compassion is the same thing. Everything that we're seeing that's just feeling way bigger and louder right now is the same thing that happens on a day to day basis. Compassion is something we've been having to work on for quite a while. People having serious opinions on Facebook has been something that isn't new. It's just 10 times louder right now. It's like a lot of Facebook, you know?
But it's just like here we are with our opinions too, but it's all meta because, because ultimately, yes, we have to all just understand. I think the more we understand the nervous system, I'm such a proponent of understanding and mastering just basics of your nervous system and self-regulation and co-regulation and understanding, you know, that we're a bit of both. We have a piece where we are responsible for ourselves, and then, of course, we're affected by, we are just, we're animals that are affected by those around us.
That's just how our nervous system is built. And so if we can understand that. You know, if we can understand our nervous systems and understand trauma responses, we automatically, we will have more compassion as to why our parents are running the TV in the background. You know, why my dad is calling me like yelling at me for not doing whatever.
I'm just going to breathe and slow down and not necessarily let it infiltrate my reality, but also just stand with love and an open heart and like compassion that, Oh, this is just the way that they know how to do it. This is, they're doing their best, and this should be the same case. If nothing is going on around the world, we should just be like, they're just trying to do their best and we can still hold our boundaries.
SO WHAT CAN WE DO THAT ISN'T ANOTHER CHECKLIST?
DM: And so what do we do if we're in the middle of that? So like I'm obviously a head person. I like a good list. So when I spot myself, you know, going to clean the kitchen, which has really not been a problem for me in the last few days, but will probably be in the next few as I pick something to cope with.
What is it that we're looking for? Are we looking for like, Am I turning on the TV because I'm trying to avoid something? Are we having that monologue with ourselves or conversation with ourselves, or are we looking to more just bring some kind of embodied practice in the kind of grounds us at the beginning of a day or an end of the day?
Assume you're talking to people who have never worked with either of you.
NM: This one's tough because, I mean, I can throw out on a very basic level I think it's important that people understand that when you are dysregulated, when you are triggered, when you are in a state that is leading you to do the thing that you do, that you don't really want to do, whatever that may be for you, you have to remember that thinking your way out of it, strategizing your way out of it, conceptualizing your way out of it doesn't actually work because you are then speaking, it's like a specific part of your brain really primarily here. This like the near cortex, the area, you're speaking that language, to a part of your brain, the reptilian brain that does not understand words because it literally existed before language was developed.
And so we need to speak the language of the reptilian brain, which is breath, movement, tears, and sound. And that's why we do Embody and different embodiment practices so that you can move the energy and regulate yourself by using the language of that part of your brain so that it understands to switch out of the gear of fight, flight, or freeze mode, which is what all of us are doing currently, and back into a place of regulation.
So we need to understand that's what's happening. So one is understanding that that's the mechanism that's even operating your system.
And then two, it's like coming out of finding, and this is why people we work with people over periods of time for them to start to sort of experiment with which tools work best for them.
For some people, it's going to be really loud ragey dancing. For some people it's about, you know, box breath, which is inhale for four, hold for four, exhale for four, hold for four, and just do that over and over again. It's really not that complicated. The options, you're either jumping and screaming to really loud Rage Against the Machine song, or you're breathing really quietly and you have to start to, you have to learn.
It's all about people learning how their system works and what they need. So someone prone to anxiety and a lot of excess energy may need to do more movement first before they can sit down. I have a lot of clients come to me and be like, I'm trying to do meditation. It's not working.
What's happening? I'm like, yeah, because you actually have so much energy bubbling inside of you that you need to shake and jump and balance for a while, and then you can find sort of the quiet within. But I want to hand it off to Bria for her thoughts. But I have the piece around, you know, how this sort of connects to a lot, cause I think it's really important that we understand that there's pieces we can do right now.
And then there's longterm pieces. And what's happening now is it's showing us all the ways in which we are not doing the work that we need to do to actually be ready and equipped for moments like these.
A lot of the clients I've been working with for a long time are sort of coming to me being like, I feel good. Am I not supposed to be like, everyone around me is panicking. I'm like, no, it's because you have the tools and you've been building the capacity for finding the peace within while there's a storm brewing on the outside.
DM: I find interesting. So I have worked with both of these ladies and so I have like some of the tools in my pocket, but I find for me it's different times of day, sort of like the box breathing is very definitely like an end of day thing for me or a full anxiety moment thing for me.
But most of the time for me, it's leaping around like a lunatic to eighties music. That's like my happy. I can feel this in my body. I just need to get it out. That's what's going to work for me. Sometimes I sing along. I'm assuming that's the sound element.
NM: Sure. You can groan, and grunts, cry, wail.
DM: I mean, my neighbors already think I am pretty weird with the eighties sing-alongs that happen at the front window. So you know, baby steps.
NM: Baby steps. Sure. Whereas I'm sure weird things are happening in other units.
DM: Bria, your take on it.
BA: A couple of different things are arising for me as both of you are speaking. The first one, Diane, I totally get you, girl. Like strategic, analytical, intellectual, hello, like a huge part of my front-facing operating system and actually a big part of why I chose to endeavor into becoming an Embody dance teacher because I was craving and have this deeper desire of curiosity around what my life and the world and an embodied experience can be like with both.
So I can appreciate what you're saying is in that it depends on like time of day, moment of the day, emotion of the day thought of the day. Like my goodness cannot range on such a roller coaster. Sometimes it can be really steady, but it's all continuously unknown. We can't anticipate what that next thought or feeling or experience is going to be.
As much as we might like to try and, and want to get control over. So one of my practices that's been really helpful, and this actually comes from. From all the way back in my health coaching days is first and foremost in those moments like Diane, you mentioned when you're about to go watch TV and maybe some refer to it as binge-watching television is, as best we can, slowing down a micro bit and asking oneself, what do I, what do I need right now? What am I craving right now? What am I desiring right now? What am I trying to avoid right now? What am I afraid of? Right? Or whatever it might be. Whatever question might be helpful because I think so often we just like a buzz through our days and our calendars and our to-do lists and our schedules and our social commitments and all of those things.
And I've found that when I slowed down in that and try and practice it. I'll often hear some wisdom come through. It's like, oh, I'm about to go watch TV. And also practicing at the same time, really trying to not shame oneself for whatever that thing may be that is arising that you're about to do or wanting to do, you know, depending on what the culture or community that you play in. There may be judgments around watching TV and that like isn't okay. And there's certain shame around it. And in other ways, like it may be that you just want to chill out and let your brain sort of float as one expert says and connect with your, whoever you're gonna watch TV with or just chill out.
So checking in to see if there's any judgments or shame and what I love to say, I don't have them on right now, but I usually wear glasses. I love to say like put your curiosity goggles on my friends and get curious about what need desire might be present in that moment. And then. Choose from there. That goes the same for, I often utilize that from health coaching, with food.
When you're about to eat, am I craving something crunchy? Do I want something soft? Do I want warm? Do I want cold? Do I want sweet? Do I want savory? Like just pausing and those micro bits can go such a long way to really be in tune and embodied in your actions and your decisions. As your days unfold and as she said, Diane, it's literally going to be different in any given moment.
I know for me right now, I'm really taking so much solitude in what I'm calling, letting the day fall off of me by getting into an Epson salt bath. Nearly every night I grabbed one of my favorite books. I do my best to turn technology off. Doesn't always happen. Sometimes I take it in the tub praying, I'll drop it, and other times like I got my book and I'm alive, I am able to drift away.
And it's just such a dance of the curiosity goggles and being in moment by moment decisions.
EMBODY DANCE CLASS
DM: You mentioned the Embody dance thing, and I know you guys have been holding like virtual classes and that I would love for you to explain it to people so that they can jump on board for that because I think if they've never done any form of that activity, I think it will be eye-opening for them to see that in a different way.
And just a different way for them to be dealing with this rather than, I can let me make 17 lists, well, how about we try this for like 15 minutes and see what that does to the day.
NM: Yeah, yeah. Oh gosh, this is so good. Because it's, if something hasn't been working, if you've been doing it one way and it's not working, like you really lose nothing, especially right now, the perfect time to try something new and just see how that works out.
Embody is essentially a space that was created in order for, anyone who identifies as woman to be able to drop into their experience of their femininity and these different feminine archetypes that we can all embody. And so the idea is that we have so many dance classes and, like workout classes and fitness classes where it's a lot about, like still being in your head, even though you're moving your body and you're optimizing your body, and it's like very masculine because you're still trying to like sculpt your body or do something to your tone, lengthen, strengthen, you know, all that stuff, which is important. I'm not saying it's not.
We don't have a place to just go and be in the area of our body. How do I feel today? Just like what Bria was saying, where we get to slow down. How do I create pleasure for myself? How do I drop into the center of my power? How do I cultivate the capacity to, even when the music around me is super, super loud and crazy to find the quiet within? How do I find my raw playful side and give her permission to come out and play and to actually essentially soothe the adult tired part of me that has to pay rent and bills and other things, all this stuff? Right? So embody really is the space for all of that.
So I want to let anyone who's listening, watching know that. you don't have to know how to dance at all. I'm that girl who always went in the opposite direction in choreography class where everyone was going this way. I was going in that way. I'm the least flexible human on the planet. I believe. Like you do not need to have done any sort of, if you are in a body, you are welcome. So that's really key to know and also to understand that it is actually these practices and body along with a lot of other sort of embodied practices that allow for us to cultivate the capacity to then be in the place that we are in now without wavering completely or losing ourselves in the panic or feeling completely fried in our nervous system. So that's just sort of an intro. Maybe I'll let Bria talk a little bit more to the structure of class and sort of what we're actually exploring in terms of emotions and archetypes and that sort of good stuff.
BA: Yeah, yeah. Thanks, Nadia. One of the things, before I go into the structure that it just had me thinking of, is what you just said about how coming into and through an embodied experience and Embody dance experience that to me, creates space and resilience and resource to go back out into the world of whatever may be happening, around us and through us.
And I had a perfect example of that yesterday. Many of us as business owners, as team members, as leaders, we're coming to some decisions around restructuring and pivoting and changing pretty rapidly. And I felt really fortunate and grateful yesterday that almost directly after leading one of our virtual Embody classes, I was going into a pretty challenging conversation about downsizing team that I'm a part of. And I felt like I was able to show up in that conversation with that much more room to be really intentionally in integrity and grounded in truth.
And engaging with those other human beings and having more space to come from my heart rather than just like, well, this makes sense and this is the logic and here's the robotic reasons as to why this is happening. The data shows it. It's like there was a beautiful blend of care that was more accessible for me.
Back to, as Nadia was saying, the structure of a class. Each class has a gorgeous, curated playlist of music that brings one through the experiences of the sensual siren, which we evoke, in pleasure, and then moving into our a warrior queen, which evokes opportunities and options for power.
And then we go into our, as Nadia was saying, our little girls, which brings forward that that opportunity for play and integration and a release closing at the end. And what I find to treasure about Embody is that it, and I've heard this from so many students from class, that it creates an opportunity for permission to move as you are, be as you are, express as you are, feel as you are, whatever, as you are, as a woman in your body at any given moment in, in class.
And I often encourage my students, in Embody experiences, and this comes from my journey and embody of it used to be challenging for me and Diane, I'm curious if you could relate to this being so analytical, being so logical and intellectual like.
Oh, I'm not sure what emotion that is or like the sound that wants to come out of me, like, what the heck is going on? Or my body wants to move in that way. Like, should I allow that to happen? And embody is such a safe space for all of it, for the questions, the curiosities and the freedom of range, to be experienced from start to finish and to be in a space with others who identify as woman who are courageously stepping up to explore that as well. There's a certain, energetic, unity that I experienced that feels like, like a boost of, of juice. Like that yummy juice. Even though we're each individually having our own experience throughout. Yeah.
DM: Meaning that in the virtual classes, cause obviously being in a room with you can actually like feel that energy, like hitting you physically. All my friends are like, Oh my God, look at Diane talking about energy. But how is that translating with the virtual classes that you're holding? Is everybody on camera? Can everybody see each other? Give me the practicalities of it. Do I have to be on camera?
NM: Let me ease your worries. Everyone can turn off the camera. If we ever do record, we never record you. So you can, but you get to do both. So some people like to stay on camera. We, you know, we invite it because we like to feel like we're seeing other people. And we as the teachers are, you know, we're, we're working with the energy.
We do see,100% the energy translates, you know, it's obviously a different experience. Because it's through zoom. However, you know, Bria was even sharing with me yesterday that she had this moment and I felt it so distinctly, so I felt her energy connecting to the energy of the other women in a very particular moment towards the end of class where everyone was really syncing up and we felt the energy, even of the people who are not on the video.
Right? So you can you, it does 100% and there was this sense of like this potent circle globally. We had women from, you know, across the world tuning in, which was awesome. And we felt like we were all, you know, dancing in the circle and it was really, really beautiful. So it 100% translates. And with that, you can tell a hundred percent hide and never show yourself or talk.
You can just, there was some people we had on yesterday, I didn't know who they were. I had never met them. I never saw them, we never heard them. Great as long as they got what they needed. Right. So you can totally show up incognito.
BA: And that's what I love about it. And in virtual classes or in the physical space, it's the permission to be, you.
DM: How do you, like how often are you having them? I think you’re rotating through all of your teachers, right?
NM: We’re running them, for the next few weeks, and then we'll see. We might prolong it depending on, again, uncertainty. We don't know what's going on. but definitely we have, we have a schedule up now, but we're doing it every Monday and every Thursday.
Mondays are at 6:00 PM Eastern, Thursdays are at 12 noon Eastern. And we rotate. I'm teaching next Monday. Then we've just got a whole set of teachers who have been, teaching for the last few years. And, you get to, you know, each teacher has a flavor and a unique music style and a unique energy, but ultimately you are coming in and you get to still explore and cultivate, you know, this pleasure, power, and play and this range, which I think is so important when we think about, you know, feminine leadership and at a time where it's so important for us to really step into this new paradigm of leadership. We need to remember that cultivating our range is so key for that and that it isn't anymore just about, okay, I know all the statistics you know what I mean?
And that's leadership, or here's how you do it all the shoulds – one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight. No, leadership is now about compassion. Leadership is also about bringing in, how do you walk your talk? How can you find, you know, quiet within the chaos. And I think in particular, you know, I, I spoke to this in a recent blog post I wrote and it feels important to mention here.
The warrior queen archetype right now is really being called upon so strongly, because she is the, you know, she's the power archetypes. She's the leader of the feminine, the leader, the matriarch, and essentially what she teaches us, and for those who have been taking Embody or who get to now, take it over the next few weeks, there is something on an embodied level about us inundating you with, cause we go through this period of class where it gets louder and sort of like angry or gnarly or music, not music that any of us necessarily would play over dinner, you know, to chill out, but it, it's actually very specifically designed to sort of come at you in a slightly aggressive way.
And the idea is that we then on an embodied level, are using music as a way to initiate ourselves into discomfort. And so it's like, if this music feels really, “Oh!”, cause I never listened to like heavy metal or rage against the machine or whatever we play a prodigy was yesterday's, right? It's like whatever we're playing.
It's a chance for us to, to find, to move that sort of aggressive, violent energy. And on the outside, that chaos into a place of stillness within. So if you get to do that during a dance class during a movement class, then guess what? The more you do that consistently, the more if the TV is on with the news and you don't want it to be, or like whatever's going on around you, that just feels like too much noise.
How do you then still on an embodied level, shift your nervous system so that you can find that place of that center for you and your truth ultimately. So.
DM: I will make sure that the link to that is in the video description so that everybody can go and find that.
IF YOU ONLY DO ONE THING…
I've been spending a lot of time in groups and talking to people on the topic of this crisis and preparing their businesses and stuff and can feel that kind of frantic energy, that kind of fear coming off of people in waves and as probably the most un-woo person that most people watching, if they've ever met me, I'm probably the least woo, I’d recommend it. I recommend both of them for something completely different outside of like all the tactics and the to-do lists.
Ladies, any final thoughts for people before we sign off? This has been a fabulous way to kind of end the week of really intense discussions for me.
NM: I think that if there's just one thing that we can take away from all of this madness, it's that we have the capacity to cultivate quiet within, and this is a chance for us to find those tools.
We believe, obviously that Embody is one of those ways to do that, but really any way to get into your bodies is a beautiful way for you to do that. Any way to connect more with your inner little girl who's really, you know, scared during this time. Can you speak to her? Ask her what she needs, self, mother, however you need to.
These are the ways, you know, that we are district, that all the excess noise, all this sort of outside stuff that's going on to find like what's true to you today. And that might be so much sadness. That might be anger that you can't travel. That's your truth. You get to have that and you get to be with that without the story of whether that's okay or not.
Or the shame or the guilt or the will or comparison, or you know, this is the piece when we can pull out of that. And what's so beautiful about embodiment is it pulls us out of our association with our thoughts, you know? And so we can really come to this place of I am not my thoughts. And so I think if we're sitting, and it's so important to talk and it's so important to connect, that's part of co-regulation, but if we over-talk on zoom and we're over trying to figure it out on zoom, what happens is we lose connection to our other superpower, which is actually our body's wisdom and our heart's wisdom. And that's really, really important, to just balance out, you know, the feminine with the masters within all of us.
BA: Gorgeous, Nadia. One bit I'll add to that. I was really struck yesterday in a moment in a meeting with a colleague actually, where I was reminded within myself, and I really attribute my embodiment practices to being able to access this amidst the storm, that in all of the collective grief and fear and anxiety and chaos and unknowns and hope and possibility and creativity, I mean, we're seeing the full mix amplified that in our humanness and all of that.
We truly have no idea what's going to happen moment by moment, day by day. I mean with Corona, being present with Corona, not being present. This to me is an ultimate truth that we don't know. We don't have the answers. And within all of that, in our humanness, in practices like embody anything that brings you into an experience where you get to tap into your truth, your innate brilliance and qualities that you are made of, that you are resourced with, that you can access at any given time. A practice like Embody, in my view, helps you to connect with that range of yourself and your kindness, your compassion, your grit, your tenacity, your power, your playfulness, all of it, and none of that.
“So I remind everyone that is feeling like they're losing control and their things are being taken, that inner aspect and inner truth within our embodied selves can never be taken.“
I don't care if it's Corona. I don't care what's going on in the world outside of us. None of that can be taken from you. So I remind everyone that is feeling like they're losing control and their things are being taken, that inner aspect and inner truth within our embodied selves can never be taken.
DM: I think we just leave it at that mic drop moment from Bria.
Thank you so much ladies, for opening your calendars at short notice, for coming in, for giving people a completely different perspective from all the other panels. And I encourage everybody to go and check out the link. Join one of the classes, feedback to the ladies what you experienced. They're both super friendly, super nice.
Go follow both of them. All the links will be in the descriptions and thank you for joining all week. I appreciate you all. Have a great weekend.
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